What do you feel when someone insults you tease you, or blame you when you are not even aware of what’ s happening? Angry? sad? Or will you degrade yourself?
Some may fight. some may flee. some may freeze. The fight-or-flight response is a physiological reaction that occurs when we face something terrifying, either mentally or physically. It plays an important role in how we deal with stress and danger. When someone harasses or insults you, some will fight till the end to prove they are right. Some people who don’t want to deal with these sorts of problems will avoid it. Actually, what should you do? You should act accordingly.
In some situations, the best option is flight. If you are seeing a dangerous animal and if you are not capable to deal with it now. What should you do? Sometimes taking a step back is better than to fight till death. In your personal or professional life, if you are not able to prove yourself or if involving or trying to prove will worsen the situation, take a step back. They may insult you and say you are not capable. Don’t degrade yourself and be down by those comments. Develop yourself and prove your worth. This is a way to show your quality.
But sometimes you have to fight. While continuously avoiding the problems and waiting for a better opportunity, you will also have to face the problems again and again. If you are vulnerable people will exploit you more. You may have encountered those situations in your work life, people tend to angry to the one who tolerates everything. Don’t be a punching bag. It doesn’t mean that you have to shout at them and be like them. Make your opinions if you feel you are right.
But some freeze. They want to express but they can’t. They can only express it after some time. You may be one of them. It is also better to express it later. We fail to judge rationally when we are emotional. So, saving your words for later is also a good thing.
Understand Your Response Type
Many people tend to prefer one or two types of stress responses together. After repeating these responses over and over they will become habitual patterns. But you can understand your patterns and develop strategies to make better choices.