Everyone will have some friends who make the get- together memorable. They crack jokes, mingle with everyone and make us feel at ease. We will be very comfortable around them. We feel comfortable whenever we talk with them and the conversation flow will be natural. And we wish to be like them, who act as a bridge with everyone. That’s because they have the ability to make a conversation interesting. We all can be good at conversing if we practice.
Talk what others are interested.
Don’t be self-focused. Some people don’t even think of what others want to listen. They are too self-obsessed in what they are interested and talk endlessly for hours. To be in a meaningful conversation, first, try to understand another person’s interest. To find out their interest you have to observe them while talking. The gestures and body language will express how keen they are to listen.
Listen first; talk second
Listen to what others want to say. There are two types of listening according to a study conducted by Faye Doell: listening to understand and listening to respond. Those who listen to understand will become a good conversationalist. Practice empathetic listening so people will feel comfortable in your presence.
Don’t be judgemental
An open mind is needed for better communication. When we make judgements while conversing, we unknowingly reject or accept the opinion they say. It will hinder the process of conversation and we won’t be able to make the rapport.
Watch your body language
Non-verbal communication plays an important role in interpersonal skills. We can understand how others feel based on their body language. We can decide whether to continue or stop the topic by observing their body language.
We sometimes try to impress others while talking. Be yourself and express your opinion without hurting others. Don’t be stubborn in your opinions. When you can’t relate what they are talking try to rephrase it. This will show you are listening and they will become interested in the conversation.
A good conversation is not about words it is how we connect with the other person.