Be Empathetic…

Are you that sort of a boss who always burst out on your employees for no reason? Then you should read this story.

The Boss was retiring. Everyone had tears in their eyes on the day of his farewell.

One of the employees said, “Sir, there is one thing we want to learn from you. We have worked with you for so many years. Leave aside about scolding your subordinates, we have never seen you even shouting at them. We have scolded our subordinates out of pressure of work or for other reasons. We want to know about the seed of your patience.”

The Boss said, “These all comes from an incident that happened in my childhood. My father was working as a lower level employee in an office. He was a very nice person. He was respected by all in our family. It happened one day, when I was studying in the 4th standard. One day I visited my father’s office for some reason. I found that my father was not in his seat. I waited there. After some time, my father came out of his boss’s cabin. I could see that the fair face of my father had turned red.

He went straight to a corner and stood there looking outside through a window. He had not seen me. I went to him and called him slowly. He was taken by surprise and turned back to look at me. I saw stream of tears flowing down his eyes. He was slightly disturbed seeing me. He did not find time to wipe out his tears. Can my father cry anytime?
He was the strongest man in the world for me. It was out of my wildest imagination that someone could hurt him.

I ran straight in to his Boss’s cabin. Father was calling me from behind. But, listening to nothing, I went inside and asked the Boss, “Why did you make my father cry?”

The Boss was also surprised.Thereafter, my father tried to make me understand. But, that day I decided to take revenge on the Boss. That day I determined to study well and become a Boss one day. But I will not make my subordinates cry anytime. Because, they are not only the employees of my office. They are also the respected and dear father or brother or somebody of their families and belong to someone important.

People say it is not possible to control others without scolding them. I say, what is love then for?”

People who come to work are the ones who devote their best and quality time of the day to work, leaving not much time for their families. They do deserve a better treatment from their surroundings.

Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; but because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you and your circumstances to get inside you and weigh you down. Redesign your life in such a way that peace becomes your priority and no negativity can permeate your mind. Just because you’re angry that doesn’t give you any right to be cruel. Anger on the other hand doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything. Incivil behavior from your side can hurt the morale of your associates and it will affect their productivity as well.
Neurologists claim that every time you resist acting on your anger, you’re actually rewiring your brain to be calmer and more loving. The less you respond to rude, critical, argumentative people the more peaceful your life becomes.

Explain your anger instead of expressing it, and you will find solutions instead of arguments….


Madhu Bhaskaran

Mr. Madhu Bhaskaran is a very famous HRD trainer and Personal Coach in Kerala , South India. Through his 24 years' experience in the capacity building training, he created the spark in more than one lakh people.

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